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Can a couple eliminate all pre-wedding ceremonies for a punjabi sikh wedding? We want it to be simple?

The reason I ask is because I hate all of the over-the-top excessiveness that accompanies punjabi weddings. I just want my wedding to include the religious portion in the gurdwara (temple) and have a reception. I don't want a shaagan/magni ceremony, chuni ceremony, gift/money giving, etc. But I want to know if others have removed these ceremonies as well, and if so how did family react?

Public Comments

1. I want the same for myself...I don't think my family would like the idea. Honestly, your family and guest would frown upon the idea of eliminating pre-wedding ceremonies....however, it's your day...make it the way you want to. You can also reach a compromise...like have a magni and combine it with the shaagun (invite only family members tho), then have a low key mendhi and sangeet and the next day have a simple wedding...I'm not sure what the chunni ceremony is but what I'm trying to say is, you can do all the ceremonies (for the sake of your parents) but make it a small thing. It sucks that half the people that go to these ceremonies are actually only there for the food or something...they could care less about the couple.