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How can I keep from crying during my wedding ceremony?

I am so excited for my wedding. I'm not the most mushy person and I was never raised to really show my feelings. I am worried that I'm going to cry happy tears during my wedding ceremony. How can I keep the waterworks from happening?

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LOL - well I just bite my cheek to keep from crying. It works b/c I think about how much my cheek hurts.
you can't stop them...you'd be one of a few who didn't have a tear ...relax!
relax, its normal! at least its a tears of joy! if you can't control it, let it be...CONGRATS!
LOL My brother and Sister-in-Law got married in September, beautiful wedding and they sang a song to each other so there was no other choice she said before the wedding she drank a rum and coke and she said it took the edge off, whatever works I guess. Congrats and good luck!
There is really nothing that you can do. If you are going to cry, you will. I cry at commercials even and know that the faucet is going to flow on this day. Just keep a tissue tucked in your dress where you can reach it quickly. I am even going to keep an extra one tucked for my fiance'. He is not an emotional person either, but has commented on the fact that he knows as soon as he sees me in my dress he is going to cry. We can try to fight the tears, but instead we need to enjoy them. They will be a sign that you are happy and you will probably make several other people who are not emotional cry. Also remember to freshen your makeup before your pictures are taken. If the person doing your makeup is going to be attending the wedding, have him/her handy right after the ceremony to freshen your makeup. If you do this, you will never be able to tell you were crying.
If you have the slightest bit of emotions...you're gonna cry... It is the happiest day of your life thus far and let out the emotions. My photographer had taken a picture of my husband with crocodile tears rolling down his face and it is my favorite wedding picture.
ahh I think about this too, Im just going to make sure my maid of honor has tissues handy for me, and I might even watch a really sappy movie the night before :D get all my tears out lol. Good Luck.
LOL- just let it flow and bring some repair makeup.
That's a tough one. I was never really a sappy person until about a year ago. Now when I watch people getting married on TV, or if they have a baby on TV, I start crying. I think it's just because I want to be in that situation, and it makes me so happy to think of when I will experience that. But strangely, when I go to weddings, I NEVER cry. I'm just grinning like a mad woman. I've wondered if I will cry during my vows, and I honestly don't know, but I prepare to wear waterproof makeup just in case! I don't know how you might stop yourself from crying, but it's never a shock when a bride cries at her own wedding. Some people will suggest thinking about something else to make your mind neutral again, but it's your WEDDING day, and short enough already. If you're thinking about next weeks' shopping, are you really going to remember watching your husband saying his vows? I'd rather be totally focussed and remember all I can of the day.
Let the tears flow! It shows that you are fully committed and extremely happy, which will reflect the beauty of the ceremony. I have to buy waterproof mascara for mine, I'll be a boo-hoo-ing mess. Good luck and don't worry about crying, its perfectly ok!!
Why should you stop a natural thing happening ? if people in your life are so stuffy they cant let their feelings show I feel sorry for them. I am getting married in June and I know I will cry as soon as I see my gorgeous man at the alter waiting for me, he has already said he will be in tears when he sees me so what chance have we got of pretending ? Its all about love and emotion so dont stop your feelings from showing, once you start I guarantee others will follow. Enjoy your day and cry all you want to, I intend to wear a really expensive waterproof mascara in June lol.
I was so stressed and I only got 3 hours of sleep the night before my wedding. I ended up crying in the limo right after I arrived at the church. Once the tears started, I couldn't stop them. When I finally stopped, we were getting ready to go down the aisle and my dad was trying very hard not to cry which just made me cry all over again. But I was able to stop before they opened the doors for us to walk down the aisle. And that was it. No more tears during the ceremony. For me, it worked to get them out before it all started.
i am trying to figure out the same thing, my fiance told me to think about something funny and if he thought i was going to cry he would give me a little sign to remind me of that funny thing.
Think about things you're looking forward to in your married life! The honeymoon, going grocery shopping or watching movies together. This way you are still thinking about him, but not in a sentimental way!
LOL - well, my cousin took a zanax the morning of her wedding. That seemed to help. REALLY WELL. If it comes out, it comes out. You won't look like a blubbering fool. It'll be sweet and I can guarantee there won't be a dry eye in the house if you cry :) LOL - you won't be alone!
I'm mushy but hide b/c others around me aren't so I can kinda relate to you. I wish I could help but I think I would get teary on my wedding day. I guess just think of it as a party celebrating the union of two people in love.
I am also dreading the same thing! I am super emotional and I don't want everyone seeing that lol. Plus... my fiance is not the emotional type and most likely won't cry. I don't want to be up there crying alone haha. I guess try to think about happy things in the future. I know it's going to be tough.... but if we cry... oh well ! It's our day and that's the one time we deserve to cry without others harrassing us haha. Now we just have to find a way to fix our makeup after the fact :)
Just keep smiling and keep your eyes wide open.That works for me,but you will still shed a couple of tears.When the serious part comes up,just think about a really funny moment with your fiance and that might work.My mom got the giggles when she got married.I hope I do the same.
You may not be able to keep from it. It's okay, your guests will know that they are tears of joy. I just concentrated on what was happening at the time and the vows that we were saying to each other, and listened to the words the musician was singing. I did get teary during the vows, but it was okay.
I know exactly what you mean. I thought about this too, but then I realized that trying to distract from feeling that happy and in turn, being emotional, wasn't something I wanted to do. I wanted to be there, completely, in that moment with my new husband. I bawled like a baby. And it was great.
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